The count down to 2011

So today will be the end of 2010 and midnight and the start of 2011. The question usually stands, "Do you have a New Year Resolution?" And the majority of people will answer, "Yes, I do. It is ________?" For me, I always wondered how many people actually keep their New Years Resolution? My thought are not many!

I, myself, really don't bother with making any resolutions. Reason? I cannot stand failure. I feel it's a set up. I also feel that a new resolution shouldn't only be done on "New Years", it should be done all year round. Now, does that mean I don't do any resolution, I do. Just my resolutions seem to take a bunch of do overs before it comes out right, (they never really come out good on the first try.) I did accomplish one major goal. I decided that I would be out on my own, living in my own place with no roommates before I turned 30, guess what I did. Yay ME!!!

My continued resolution which has been my resolution every year is to all my friends and family continue to strive in everything that they do. That even in hardship, there is reward and lessons to be learn. Do not harp on regret (its very hard to do, but do it anyway), it makes you old. Love like it is your last breath and cherish what you have. Take care of your health and try everything at least once. Hold no grudges and apologize even if the person doesn't.

So, again!! HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! WELCOMING 2011. EVERYONE PLEASE BE SAFE AND HAPPY!!!

When race become an issue in relationships...

I recently came across an issue, not my personal issue, but an issue concerning someone I know and a dilemma that consisted of race. Her eye candy just so happens to be White and she is a stunning gorgeous woman of African decent. Now, her dilemma consist of his friends and family not accepting her due to her race. This "couple" have basically been in secret for about five months now. He genuinely cares for her and she for him. As I mentioned, their biggest obstacle is his family and friends. She came to me asking me my input on the dilemma and what my thoughts were. I explained to her and told her that if he is not man enough to come out and express how he feels about her to his family and friends then he is not a man. That she is too good to be kept in the shadows and that these individuals are biggots. I explained that if the family is already judging her from the start without knowing you, then her relationship with him is ruined from the start.

It amazes me, that even in this day and age certain people are against interracial relationships. It is 2010 people, soon to be 2011. You would think that there would be some type of acceptance at this point. Everyone has their preferences and is able to choose who they feel they should be with. Interracial relationships are beautiful... don't you think?

If you were in this situation how would you handle it?

My friends

As much as I love my girlfriends, there are moments they want to smack me and I want to smack them. Obviously, its all in a you are acting like a baby now grow up type of smack. So my girlfriend and I were speaking via whatsapp and she has been having a slight dilemma and was very depressed about it. So, I decided it was better to speak to her on the phone and straighten her act out. Me being my brutally honest self and her giggling because she knows I am slightly frustrated, but knows I care about her mental health ... lol (She's pretty sane) and also knows at any point in time I am going to smack her for her silliness...

For those of you who read my blog...

I ask that you take the time out of your busy day to follow a very gifted and talented individual I know. She is 29 Year Old Proud Stroke Survivor! She is by far one of my closest friends and when I mean closest I mean like 20+ years friend. We graduated elementary school together and high school. Then we drifted off to different colleges. But thanks to social networking sites like Face Book and the ancient Myspace we had the opportunity to reconnect and have remained that way ever since. As I mentioned earlier, she is a proud stroke survivor. When I found out that she had the stroke, I was pretty harsh with her and couldn't believe it. But I have been there ever since and this stroke has shown her who her real friends are. I ask that you join her blog and support her cause. She is looking to educate young individuals who think that a stroke can't happen to them. She is proof that they can regardless of your age. She will explain to you the signs to look out for and what not to ignore.

So come and join me on her journey, not only on her recovery, but also her experience.... http://imakethestrokeunitsexy.blogspot.com/

I cannot imagine my world without this strong young vibrant woman in my life and I am thankful for her friendship and support everyday.

When others try to force their views of religion on you!

Have you ever come across an individual who just feels it is necessary to enforce their views of religion on you? Or even working for an organization that judges you based on that? Even states that this is a "Christian Organization" when they are reprimanding you in someway.

I recently had this experience about two weeks ago, both myself and another friend that I had the pleasure of meeting along the way. This organization which shall remain nameless, upon hire, felt it was necessary for myself to know that even though they are a "Christian Organization" they do not impose their religious views on their employees. No more than a few days of working there, I realize that wasn't even the case. My friend who at the time was working there had the experience of being told on more than one occasion that this was a "Christian Organization" and that showing too much skin was not appropriate for this type of organization. On my first day there, I was told to button up my sweater because the boss was going to have a problem. Now, for those of you who know me personally know that I have never been reprimanded on my appearance. And in this regard, I am usually the example of what business attire should look like.

Well, to make a very long story short, I was sent home on another occasion due to my choice of attire, which was a sweater dress. I was told that I look fabulous, but it was too tight and too short and  the black tights were not allowed. I also was reminded again this is a "Christian Organization" and that if I was allowed to wear a sweater dress that everyone in the organization would feel it would be all right to wear a sweater dress. On my return back to work the following day, I was dressed in a fitted blouse and dress slacks. My boss still looked at me up and down to see what it was that I was wearing. I was also set up by my boss, but that shall be for a different blog.

With that said, I am no longer working for that company. But I guess what I am trying to make a point of is this... For one, I am a nonpracticing Catholic who has had a child out of wedlock. I do not appreciate someone explaining me the do's and don'ts of what is considered "Christian Like" especially when you are going behind my back talking about me, because that for one, is not "Christian Like" I just can't stand hypocrites who use religion has a source of validation. They are the biggest DEVILS...

truly

Is worried that her guardian angel is a crack head??

When women become out of line

Why are there so many trashy women in the world? When women have the nerve to talk about other women being "man stealer," yet they themselves seem to be that individual. Don't throw stones at glass houses...

The BIG and I mean the BIG 3-0!!

Yup, that's right you read what I said correctly!!! The BIG 3-0! Yesterday was my birthday, and I have yet to really understand it all... So many of my friends are excited about it. I have to admit so was I, but realistically it just means that I am now in my 30s, and ten years from now I will be in my 40s, and then it hopefully will continue from there. 

Now with that said, I decided that it would be in my best interest to set some goals for myself. Of course, it is always a good idea to set goals for yourself regardless of the occasion. But for me, I really decided that before I hit 30, I would no longer be living with my parents!  Hooray, for me that goal has been met. So this year, my goal is to get myself out of debt and become wiser about my funding.  Also, another goal that I have set for myself, I am going to travel more, what I mean by travel is not the typical Caribbean islands, I mean EUROPE and SOUTH AMERICA!

When I hear Stattlich (my boyfriend) speak of Europe, I am in awe... before he hit 30 he was already traveling the world (now, don't get it twisted he's only 32). But that isn't the reason I want to go to Europe or South America, its because I want to live outside of the box and explore the entire world.

Wow, it's been a minute...

Sorry guys, I will try my best to not let this happen again... I am so slacking on my blogging!!

Frustration

Stress is going to be the death of me.

I have definitely learned my lesson, and I will never put myself in this predicament again. It so embarrassing to be in this predicament I'm in, especially to my partner. I personally never cared what anyone's thoughts were of me. I can say, outside of my own thoughts of myself, which matter. My partner's view of me also matters most. (Sad, but true.) It's a shitty feeling to feel like you have let someone down, even though to them you didn't.

It is so important in life to listen to those who are much wiser than you. Who have been there, done that. Their knowledge is key. To you, they may seem annoying and bothersome. The fact is, they are as fine as wine and their knowledge is the precious nectar that you should and want to drink. (Being wiser doesn't mean being older, it means being smarted than the rest.)

As I said earlier, and I will state it again. "I have definitely learned my lesson, and I will never put myself in this predicament again." I will learn my lesson well and not make the same mistakes twice. 

Hates

it when my angry gets the best of me. Hates the fact that I left without kissing you good-bye. Hates the fact that I left in the elevator without looking at your face. And hates that today, I only spoken to you once, and haven't spoken to you since.

Sometimes...

In life, you tend to think you have your whole life planned out. That by a certain age you think, you've reached the majority of your goals. By the age of 18 you are starting college, by the time you're 21, you've graduated college and you're off to start your career. From the age of 21 to about 27, you've dated a bunch of people to get it of your system and say, "I did that, or even why did I do that?" By the time you turn 28, even 29, you really don't decide you want to settle down, but you want a steady relationship. Sometimes that relationship leads down to marriage, so by the age of 31 to 33 you decide to get married and then by 35 you are having your first child. That's usually how the majority of people think. Or at least I think they do.

All I can say is my life as definitely not planned out that way. Not one ounce of it. I guess what I am saying is, don't have high expectations on how your life is going to be lead. Sometimes, it leads for the best and others may lead to the worst, but the reality is, that it's life and consist of twists and turns.

What you expect from someone is never what it is, and the thought is, that not matter what you put in, really isn't given in return, regardless, of how hard you try. So why try... What you expect out of life isn't what it will always be... Just don't give up
Sad, but true...

Happy Veteran's Day

Happy Veteran's Day to all the soldiers who served our country and continue to do so. To all men and women out there, and my friends and family members.  You are all truly honored!!

To the past, to the present & to the future. We salute all of  you in honor of this day & every day, for your sacrifices, your determination & your strength. 

Especially, to my Brother Sgt. Leopoldo Lopez, you are one in a million, it's been three years that you have been back home. To my cousin Saben John who is continuing to serve our country, we love you both. To those who have fallen, you are never forgotten.

I truly believe in an eye for an eye!!!

OMG, watching Eyewitness News & hearing the chilling murder of a 19 year old Pace University student Kevin Pravia is so disturbing. A 22 year-old male Jerome Cancel, sold cocaine, to the Kevin Pravia who fell asleep in his apartment. The 22 year-old male, robs Kevin Pravia of everything he has while sleeping and leaves. The 22 year-old male then returns to strangle the 19 year-old male while sleeping.  

While the 22 year-old male was speaking of his encounter he stated, in detail, what he did to the 19 year old male, without remorse. He's only concern was how swollen his hand was after strangling Mr. Pravia.

What is this world coming to? Killing just for the sake of killing. This is why prisons are so over crowded, because Government feels it is necessary to keep cold blooded murders on death row for x amount of years wasting precious tax payers dollars, that can go to something else much more important like EDUCATION. I truly believe in an eye for an eye. We can use the millions and millions of dollars that are invested in prisons throughout the United States to education, health insurance, Social Security and the list can go on. I just can't understand how our Government prioritizes.

Really

So early this morning, I was surfing the web ( as you can see really early) and I came across a website that I am truly inspired about. It's called the Heartless Bitches International http://www.heartless-bitches.com/

As you know, many times we are called a heartless bitch (I know I have), but the reality is true, we are! Why are we heartless bitches, you ask? Well think about it?  We become heartless, because of the lies, the cheating, being inconsiderate and the list can go on. We are heartless, because we've matured in some way, shape or form where we have no tolerance for stupidity. Some of us slower than others. I have to say it took me a moment to realize where I stood. Honestly, it happens to all of us.

I am telling you men are just dumb, I think if their D!ck could talk back to them, it would literally say "you're a dick" really (Morons) by me, myself, & I

A while back, a friend of mine was upset because someone called her a bitch (I mean really upset). I asked her why? She stated, "I've ever been called a bitch before, it's such a nasty name." I looked at her and laughed. I told her, being called a bitch isn't a nasty name its a compliment, and I'd wear it proudly.
Being a bitch means, not having the tolerance to deal with anyone elses' shit but your own.

The website Heartless Bitch, is a site I think all women should take a look and know they aren't the only ones thinking that way... Awesome quotes.

"Don’t fuck with my reality. I’d rather know an ugly
truth than be mislead by a pretty lie. Just lay it on out there, say
what you mean and don’t paint the turds."
-- HBI Member MisTre

That's exactly how I feel... 

Feline Friends

If there is anything more that I am an attention whore about its cats. I LOVE KITTIES... They are so freaking adorable. Everything about them is cute. From the way they jump around. To how they show they love their owners, to their playfulness. And guess what? They don't need all that undivided attention. They are more independent. When they want attention, they come and get it. When they don't, they could careless about who you are, as long as you feed them. ( Sounds like me) Right now, my favorite feline friend is Sushi... he is adorable, lovable, kissable, hugable,  and squeezable... I just love this kitten, he is a ball of play everyday!!!

I know many people are huge lovers of dogs, and so am I. But I am too lazy to take care of them and pay any attention to them (and boy, do they need a ton of attention). Too much time and effort to take them for walks, or take them for doggie play dates (yes, doggies have play dates) and all this other crap. I mean it is cute to get them all dressed up, but again to much effort and attention to make one cute. I might as well put that much continued attention into myself.

Did I mention they need a ton of attention? (Oh, yeah I did.) Just like men need a bunch of attention (Personally, I only have enough in me to pay attention to one, and of course, I am the stupid one to pay attention to men.) But dogs are definitely much more loyal than men!

So to all my pet loving friends... Kudos to you if you have a dog and all that damn attention you give them... LOL. Double kudos for all you cat lovers out there.

Sometimes a getaway is necessary..

Well, if all of you were wondering where I'd disappeared too? Because you haven't seen any new blogs?

I was actually on a little getaway with my Stattlich. Sometimes it is necessary to getaway to revive one's self to find one's mojo. We all are so caught up in our lives, forgetting that we need to take the time out for each other. Stattlich and I decided to do that, (well also, Stattlich had a free room for two nights) take the opportunity to enjoy each other and the time we spent together. I had a great time and I have great memories to show for it. If you haven't tried it, my advice is go away, even if its for a short weekend. Get away enjoy yourself. I know I did.

Erase Hate Day...

This quote was posted on Facebook today,"My wish for 2010 and beyond is that people will understand that being gay is neither a disease nor a choice. People who are gay are not looking for a cure, but ACCEPTANCE and EQUAL RIGHTS." 

I am a true advocate of gay rights. Some of my closets family and friends are gay. I support their every choice, because their happiness is what matters. I am not God to judge and neither is anyone else. Too many people are quick to give their opinion, and my opinion is who the Fcuk asked you for your opinion. If you don't like what you see don't look. The problem is being closed minded. And not seeing the bigger picture. The bigger picture is everyone deserves the right to happiness. God is the only one that can judge. The reality is, life is about change. So swallow that medicine as much as you don't like the way it tastes. 

Seeing individuals hurting and beating other individuals because of their differences is unacceptable. We all shit the same way, bleed the same way and cry the same way. Anyone who promotes violence concerning beating of anyone who is a of different race, sex or gender should be held and persecuted for their actions under a court of law. And anyone who doesn't get caught, your time will come. 

So everyone grow the Fcuk up and worry about more important things like; Our corrupt government, Health insurance, education, unemployment, social security and taxes. The list can go on.

Those gorgeous cat eyes...

Adrianna Lima, the Bombshell that models for Victoria Secret and other hi-end relators. Angelina Jolie, just the name itself drools sex. Megan Fox, actress another stunner.  What can I say about these ladies that you have already heard? 

My good friend Jin has these eyes. I am a big sucker for light eyes, always have been, always will be. With that said, the reason why I am blogging about these gorgeous women. Well, because if I was into girls they would be on the top of my list of LipsStick Chics. Look at these beauties with the gorgeous cat eyes...

Changes

This morning, I have just realized that I can deal with change, but only concerning certain issues. With other issues I am having a difficult time. And one of them is right now.... I have no clue how to deal with this issue, and its  making me upset. =( For the past few months, I have noticed a few issues and I am not even sure how to discuss these issues . A part of me thinks its my insecurities, and a part of me thinks its exactly how I feel.

What to do? What to do?

The Golden Girls

For some people, I am as lame as they get. For others, I am on the same page as them. We think the Golden Girls are AWESOME.

The Golden Girls in my opinion are the original Sex and the City girls. Just older, and funnier. I can watch this show over and over again and still get a good laugh. It is definitely one of my comforts when I am feeling sad.

I just wished they give it on the weekends.

The simplest pleasures

I don't know about you, but for me the simplest pleasures are what matter most in a relationship. Its a bond that grows with each special moment. A gift each one gives to one another without costing much, but a simple smile that touches the heart.

Compromise, trust, respect, a simple phone call or text shows you care.

I always ask myself, why is it so easy for people to take, but not give? I am definitely a giver, I have been a giver all my life. Its not that I give to expect anything, I give because when I care or love someone so much, its only the right thing to do. Expressing yourself by giving. It doesn't have to monetary, or even physical, but for me it as to be emotional. Its just common courteous to wanna give back especially if the one who loves you is good to you.

So, why is it so hard to give back? Is it because we are too selfish to think of others, or too busy? Or is it our priorities are in such a way that the most important things (or person) becomes the least important. I wish I was built that way, to be a taker and not a giver. (But I know, I am not.) I know I shouldn't expect people to be like me, and give, but I do. And that will always be my problem.

Wanting to hear that special someone's voice isn't a sign of keeping tabs or trying to figure out where that person is. Its really just wanting to hear their voice because you miss them. Why do people always have an agenda, thinking someone is watching their every move. Have you ever thought maybe they just want to hear your voice. Or even that you are thinking of them.

I wonder if that person ever realizes, the special person they have in front of them. That rare individual that comes once in a life time, and they are lucky enough to have them as a companion in this journey called life. Do they know that person compromises for them because they genuinely are in love with them? Is that so hard to believe? Do they know that that person really wants to see not only to their own happiness, but to the happiness of their partner? Do they really think of those things other than themselves?

Its a lot to process, but think about it. What are your thoughts?

I am such a hopeless romantic...

Every girl as this dream of meeting her prince charming.  So many of us have kissed so many frogs before we had a chance to meet our prince. (Some of us are still kissing frogs)

 I figured I would name a few of my favorite romantic movies.

Now, this one I just saw this morning The Mistress of Spices. Such an awesome movie.

Simple Irresistable.
Kate and Leopold
Pretty Woman
Legend of the Falls
City of Angels


The list can go on... So when you have a chance and want to fall in love, just take the time out to watch these great movies and many more! Enjoy!!!

I love the way you...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uelHwf8o7_U

Rihanna...
Just gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that's alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that's alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie


I can only imagine the amount of women who feel like this every day. We all have this hope that our other halves are honest with us. That's all we can do, is hope.

The worst feeling in the world is to be lied to. To be made to feel insignificant. Knowing in our hearts, if we ask them for the truth, they are going to lie about it anyway. Which is another lie, on top of another. Even the most secured relationships feel this way.

I guess, what I expect out of my relationship (or any relationship), is this... If you don't love me tell me, if there is someone else tell me, if you no longer care for me tell me. Don't lead me on and don't waste my time. I will respect you more if you are honest.

I feel that all women should emphasize that. Express themselves!

When you look at this picture, what are you thoughts??

First and foremost, I have to give a shout out to my girl T, thank you for letting me use this picture...

At first, when I saw this picture on her account, I couldn't really tell it was an ass above his head. I actually thought it was his confusion on love. With that said, this picture is hilarious!!!

As I said early, my true thoughts were his confusion on love.  The reason I say that, is because that's usually what happens. We women think one way and men think another. The sad part is that we (meaning women) usually think that our men are thinking the same way, when they really aren't (hate to burst your bubble) its sad, but true.

Our expectations are always so high, even when we try to convince ourselves that we aren't going to do that anymore. But unfortunately we do, unfortunately, we set ourselves up for heartache and sadness. Why do we do that, you ask? Well, its simple. We (women) are emotional creatures. We think with our hearts rather than our heads. When men on the other hand, think with their heads (usually the one in between their legs). Then after they've tapped that, (yes, I said!) depending on how soon they have "tapped that," they will decide if its worth continuing. Why you ask? Because they are men, they aren't emotional. They are very simple minded creatures.

This is why opposites attract.

So, when you go on your next date ladies, know this. Men are always trying to sleep with you and that is their first thought. ALWAYS...  If they tell you no, they are liars. So go in with no EXPECTATIONS!! Usually something UNEXPECTED happens. Which is, its either going to continue or its not (Believe me, I know).

If you are in a relationship, like I am. Just go with your heart and hope that he truly feels the same for you. (He may not show it the way you would like him to, but try to voice your opinion in a polite manner and if he cares he will try) I know its taking a risk, but that's what life is about risks.

Things you deal with during work (dummies)

 When I was working for a particular company, this was by far the most interesting position I ever had. You know that there are some dumb people out in the world, but you really don't think there are that many dumb people, until you actually see it for yourself.

 

Here are a few of my experiences while working for this company (I shall not mention names).  Please take notes about what not to do during an interview.

 

1. How in the world are you going to walk into a job interview, and tell the employer if it is possible if the employer can make a copy of your resume because that is the last one you have left? You have got to be kidding me.

 

2. OMG, so a guy just walked into my office with a dress shirt and shorts. Normally, I would send him home on the spot, but since he had the nerve to come in shorts, he can just wait there.

 

3. TMI---Now, I am all for young mothers who are taking care of themselves and providing for their loved ones. But there is something severally  wrong, when I hear a young minority woman say, I am 22 years-old and I have 4 kids, ranging from the ages of 1 to 4 yrs-old. I got four baby daddies, (like its the right to do. Yet, my hard earned tax dollars are supporting you dumb ass!!) YEAH, I SAID IT!!

 

4. This is why you have no job! I have no tolerance for ignorant ghetto individuals. If you are wondering why you are being put into this category, it's because you, yourself have put yourself there. So blame yourself. Change starts with you!!!

 

5. I don't understand people! If you're given the opportunity to succeed in life, why be a scumbag about it and screw it up, not only for you, but for everyone else.

 

6. So, I received a resume today and on the resume its states, that the
person's recent job title was "I am Competent." Classic LMAO

 

7. Some MORON decided that he was going to come in for an interview in sweat pants and a T-shirt. I have no clue what some people are thinking.

 

8. If I could beat the crap out of this old HAG, who disrupted my briefing, I would. OMG, the BALLS!!!!

 

9. The fact that I have to tell you, what to wear on an interview is insulting to my intelligence! If I say no do-rags, no do-rags!

 

10. So far from being the pickiest individual concerning grammar and punctuation. Granted no one is perfect, and makes mistakes, including myself. But for those of you sending out your resume to prospective employers, can you at least have the common courtesy to send a resume that at least has the letter "I" capitalized. When speaking in the first person.  Thanks!!!

 

11. PEOPLE, PEOPLE, PEOPLE, when sending a resume to a prospective employer, when stating that the resume is attached, please make sure the resume is ATTACHED. AIR HEADS!

 

12. I have to say, that some of the most interesting people DO COME FROM NYC. Just called a woman, who left me a message inquiring about the position and she tells me that she is brushing her teeth and will call me back in two seconds. 

Now, the funny part about this whole thing is. She is telling me this, while the toothbrush is in her mouth. LOL

 

13.  A guy came in for an interview & was sent home. The reason he was sent home, was he decided to come in a blazer & jeans, like, if he was going to a club. Ladies & gents, which means note to self. When coming in for an interview, please dress accordingly, which would mean business attire. Don't come in half ass, with a blazer, but not the slacks. It's an interview for goodness sake. DUMB ASS

 

14. Once hired for the positions, please do not stare at hiring manager's boobs or at least, if you are going to be staring at them be discreet about it. Also, apologize when you are caught, especially when she tells you they don't answer back and its not polite to stare. Thanks!

 

15. When hiring manager is returning a call, please, please, please, don't take her to the bathroom with you on your cordless phone, and have her hear you taking a leak and flushing the toilet! OMG...

 

16.  When you are looking for a job, I beg of you! Please, please, please when sending your resume, when the hiring manager calls you back, on your voice-mail, your message shouldn't be HOLLAR ATCHA BOYY!! Thanks...

So this was the stuff  I had to deal with... Man are we in trouble!

 

For the life of me I can't understand!

Living in New York, you start to understand why people are the way they are. Then you also understand why you want to beat the $h!t out of them, for being the way they are. On the subway, I always see ads stating that courtesy is contagious... Who the Fcuk lied to them, and why are they trying to lie to us. The reality is courtesy isn't contagious and I truly believe that half of New York City doesn't even know the meaning of those three little words.

Perfect example: (and many of you have gone through this). This morning, I was heading back to my place from dropping off my daughter. I got on the train and it was packed, the usually for eight in the morning. So, there is this guy and he is leaning on the pole (not holding it leaning on the pole).  Sorry, fellas to shout you out, but the majority of the time its you men who can be the most rude.

Now, being my normal bitchy self, and knowing it was completely packed, and I couldn't fit my little self anywhere else. I had to hold the same pole. I fit my hand between him and the pole. He looks at me, like I was the rudest person he had ever met. He tells me, "You could have said excuse me." I told him, you are absolutely right I could have, but its only common sense that if its a packed train (I don't care if its packed or not) you would hold onto the pole rather than leaning on the pole. There are other people that need access to the pole. And I didn't pay $2.25 for you to lean on the pole and for me to have no access to it.

So, of course, he got upset with me and changed positions and held the pole. While giving me dirty looks! Probably, calling me every name in the book!!

What can I say

I <3 my friends. I love everything about them. We may drive each other nuts and may even not talk for a while, but one thing I can always expect is a good laugh. By far my closest friends are from back in my high school days (Way back!!) That's where I think, you will gain friends for life... (Actually, that's slightly a lie, Me and my girl Jin go back to elementary school days... Yup, I said it, 20+ odd years!) I have to first thank Myspace (Does anyone use that useless crap anymore?), because of them I found the majority of my wonderful friends. Secondly, I have to thank Facebook! (Big ups). My closest of closest friends are on there. Lucky Carms, CheChe Keesy, Lulu, V, Mar and Jin friends for life!

Then there is my Tae Kwon Doe Friend Vern, we were always in trouble together and she made me pee on myself (yeah, I said it!) And until this day, we are still friends!

Then it comes down to my college years (btw, I went to a ton of colleges and still I am trying to find myself SMDH). Mel, I love you. You loved (and still do) love my daughter like she is your own. I miss you so much.  I have grown to love all my college friends and even those that I don't speak to, they are always in my heart. They have even shown me love on new blog. (Thanks to my peeps) Ms. Falcon, you are my sister! Ms. Jimenez, I miss you soo much.. When are you going to love me again!

And then there is my work years (if anyone knows of a good company hiring, let me know) Especially, my girl Sash. She is hilarious!! Randomness is our forte... from going to Museums a little buzz (little being a total lie) to having a bird poop on me while we are out to dinner! Oh, and lets not forget the club moment where she tripped and still looked sexy while doing it...Then there is Toni aka Sonya... We fight and make up... lol, but we always have a great time out!

Also, to my friends who I have meet along the way. Thank you! 

I am completely blessed with my great friends!

We women...

Sometimes need a huge smack in the face. We do the craziest things just to have someone love us, accept us and just be with us. Even when we know they are not good for us. We tolerate things from men that no individual should tolerate.

I have seen a lot and I've been through a lot and I am thankful every day that it as made me the woman I am. When I hear young women belittle themselves it just makes me so mad when I hear, "I am not pretty, I am too fat etc." If you belittle yourself, a man will belittle you (not all men), but JERKS will. No man should treat any woman any less than what she is worth.

Ladies always remember your worth is your most sacred gift. Hold yourself in the highest regardless and a man (not a boy) will hold you there as well, don't settle for anything less.

Always remember this, What's one man's trash, is another man's gold.

The Adventures of Betty the Reds

I have an A-MAZING friend, who I love like a sister. She is so much fun and as a great personality (And she as curves in all the right places...) Please follow her blog! She is by far the most creative individual I know. She is a breath of fresh air! And I have to thank her for pushing me to start my own!!

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God please give me strength

I need all the blessings I can get. I am so tired, and feel completely at my lowest. I need your strength God.

As my girlfriend Jenn Jen would say

"Dear Life,
I believe you didn't receive my previous memo. Please let me know if you have any intent on letting me breathe a
little easier... Sincerely, The pun of your jokes lately" 

She's a genius with her wittiness!

I personally think...

That they seriously need to do deeper background checks when bringing in new recruites for the NYC Police Department, What I mean by that is a mental background check.

This afternoon, I was leaving my place to run a few errands. I noticed a police car slowly passing by. I really didn't think anything of it, until they stopped me two blocks away from my place. The problem I have with this is, not only did they stop in the middle of the street, it's how one of the officers approached me. This is how it went:

Officer: What's your name?
Me: Why do you need to know my name?
Officer: Because I am asking.
Me: Again, the reason you need to know my name is because --
Officer: We are doing an investigation.
Me: So wouldn't it be best to say, excuse me Miss I am doing an investigation and would like to know if -- Not what's your name.
Officer: (drives off)

Now, again does anyone else see the problem here? He wasn't investigating crap. He was trying to investigate my number. Its a huge issue when police officers use their power in an inappropriate manner.

I was pi$$ed for a few hours. Bastards!

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies...

For those of you, who do not know the meaning of pet peeves, well here it is.... pet peeve (or pet hate) is a minor annoyance that an individual identifies as particularly annoying to him or her, to a greater degree than others may find it. Thank you Wikipedia.

 Now, with that said. Back to the ladies and this goes for the men as well... My biggest pet peeves are (and there are many, so I will try and make this brief, if not, we are going to be here all day.) When I see an attractive young lady walking down the street. She's looking well put together. She just looks fierce, playing the part of "Yeah, that right I'm flaunting it!" But of course, me being the person I am (I notice everything) I see her bra strap either dirty or all tangled up. C'mon now, this is a huge no, no! Just makes me what to smack the $h!t out of her.

Now, men (and this doesn't go for all) when you walk out of the house looking like you have lost the fight of your life with the iron. (Basically a hot mess!) Is it necessary to walk out the house looking like a bum? Really! News Flash fellas, a woman loves a man that can play both parts. Looking rough and rugged and looking sharp! If you don't have either of those, you might as well kill yourself.

Child Abuse!!!

Any man who abuses any child deserves the death penalty as soon as he is caught. As well as, the mother who doesn't believe her child. Just heard a story of a young girl who is now 16, but from the young age of 6, she was forced to perform sexual acts with her mouth & now as throat cancer. She told her mother of what this man was doing & the mother called her a liar. (btw, the man is the mother's boyfriend)

Completely disgusted with today's society. Very much a big advocate of an eye for an eye! Bastard!  

What your boyfriend should be, and what he actually is?

What's your definition of a boyfriend? Or better yet, what's your expectation of a boyfriend?

For instance, my expectation isn't that he has to be drop dead gorgeous, nor does he have to be a millionaire. But what I would love for him to be is intelligent, witty, slightly romantic and somewhat sincere, but most importantly a good listener who isn't going to judge me.

You are so Dumb... For REAL

http://www.watchevansville.com/play/News+and+Politics/Huntsville_Rapist

This is not only scary, but hilarious... This is the epitome of GHETTO, why must people speak this way???

Why are stupid people famous!!

Would like to know what have I done wrong? Why am I not famous?

So many people watch the Jersey Shore, and I just can't understand it. I have tried my hardest to watch this show and when it all comes down to it, I feel as if I am losing brain cells. But it isn't even that, I cannot understand how these individuals are being paid x amount of dollars with no talent what so ever!!  This is definitely a quantity act... because there is no freaking quality here!

What this shows says, like every other show MTV as shown is that, it isn't necessary to be intelligent. If you are dumb you will get paid. So when it comes down to it, again, I would like to know what have I done wrong? Oh, I know, I am an intelligent individual and that doesn't count as quantity. Oh, stupid me for wondering...

Why am I always in trouble....

Somehow, I'm always in trouble for saying what's on my mind. I know there's a time and place for everything.  I do choose wisely what I'm going to say, but somehow I'm wrong!! Sheesh!

Just the things people do is by far the most mind boggling thing to me. And when I state my opinion, it's like OMG she said what? Then there is me saying. Well, you're an idiot and I'm calling you out!! 

Why are people so dumb, is it really important to do something without thinking...

Is common sense, really not that common? And if so, how long do I have, because there has to be an emergency exit somewhere...

It isn't that I'm not a people person. It's simply that I'm not a STUPID people person.  (by sexyvampire46) A quote that I got from this blogger... She is brilliant.

MEN!!!

So the meaning of word Men from Urban Dictionary is... A sex that some women on urbandictionary.com come to bitch about because they have recently been dumped, or can't get any. Jennifer: OH MY GOD WHY CAN'T I EVER GET LAID. FUCK MEN, FUCK THEM ALL. AHAHAHA I WILL GOTO URBANDICTIONARY DOT COM AND WRITE UP A DEFINITION ON HOW MUCH MEN SUCK. AHAHAH THAT'LL SHOW EM. Now, honestly this is my first blog, so of course, I am going to pick something to blog about or complain about... LOL (in this case, I am doing both.) What can I say, that hasn't been said by every other woman in this entire planet from the past to the present... Men, you can't live with them, you can't live without them. I am really starting to question that. Sometimes, I wish I was born back in the day, when a man courted a woman. When a man was genuinely interested in her. Nowadays, that doesn't even seem to be the case. Nowadays, it seems like more and more the quality of men has diminished. I feel so bad for the futures of the young ladies that are coming right after us. They are really going to have to deal with these so called men.  Men no longer court a woman, they really no longer care really. I know that is generalizing (so I am apologizing now for doing it.), but all I know is that even when you are a good girl, somehow it isn't enough. Even when you are a good girl with a touch of bad it isn't enough. So where does it all come together? To be honest, there really isn't a right answer to this question or even a wrong answer.  It really is what you make of it. All you can do, is be the best person you possibly can be and hope that the man you have interest in sees everything that you have to offer, and accepts your imperfections and knows that those imperfections are what make you beautiful.  And if not, screw him and on to the next... Just saying!