Sometimes a getaway is necessary..

Well, if all of you were wondering where I'd disappeared too? Because you haven't seen any new blogs?

I was actually on a little getaway with my Stattlich. Sometimes it is necessary to getaway to revive one's self to find one's mojo. We all are so caught up in our lives, forgetting that we need to take the time out for each other. Stattlich and I decided to do that, (well also, Stattlich had a free room for two nights) take the opportunity to enjoy each other and the time we spent together. I had a great time and I have great memories to show for it. If you haven't tried it, my advice is go away, even if its for a short weekend. Get away enjoy yourself. I know I did.

Erase Hate Day...

This quote was posted on Facebook today,"My wish for 2010 and beyond is that people will understand that being gay is neither a disease nor a choice. People who are gay are not looking for a cure, but ACCEPTANCE and EQUAL RIGHTS." 

I am a true advocate of gay rights. Some of my closets family and friends are gay. I support their every choice, because their happiness is what matters. I am not God to judge and neither is anyone else. Too many people are quick to give their opinion, and my opinion is who the Fcuk asked you for your opinion. If you don't like what you see don't look. The problem is being closed minded. And not seeing the bigger picture. The bigger picture is everyone deserves the right to happiness. God is the only one that can judge. The reality is, life is about change. So swallow that medicine as much as you don't like the way it tastes. 

Seeing individuals hurting and beating other individuals because of their differences is unacceptable. We all shit the same way, bleed the same way and cry the same way. Anyone who promotes violence concerning beating of anyone who is a of different race, sex or gender should be held and persecuted for their actions under a court of law. And anyone who doesn't get caught, your time will come. 

So everyone grow the Fcuk up and worry about more important things like; Our corrupt government, Health insurance, education, unemployment, social security and taxes. The list can go on.

Those gorgeous cat eyes...

Adrianna Lima, the Bombshell that models for Victoria Secret and other hi-end relators. Angelina Jolie, just the name itself drools sex. Megan Fox, actress another stunner.  What can I say about these ladies that you have already heard? 

My good friend Jin has these eyes. I am a big sucker for light eyes, always have been, always will be. With that said, the reason why I am blogging about these gorgeous women. Well, because if I was into girls they would be on the top of my list of LipsStick Chics. Look at these beauties with the gorgeous cat eyes...

Changes

This morning, I have just realized that I can deal with change, but only concerning certain issues. With other issues I am having a difficult time. And one of them is right now.... I have no clue how to deal with this issue, and its  making me upset. =( For the past few months, I have noticed a few issues and I am not even sure how to discuss these issues . A part of me thinks its my insecurities, and a part of me thinks its exactly how I feel.

What to do? What to do?

The Golden Girls

For some people, I am as lame as they get. For others, I am on the same page as them. We think the Golden Girls are AWESOME.

The Golden Girls in my opinion are the original Sex and the City girls. Just older, and funnier. I can watch this show over and over again and still get a good laugh. It is definitely one of my comforts when I am feeling sad.

I just wished they give it on the weekends.

The simplest pleasures

I don't know about you, but for me the simplest pleasures are what matter most in a relationship. Its a bond that grows with each special moment. A gift each one gives to one another without costing much, but a simple smile that touches the heart.

Compromise, trust, respect, a simple phone call or text shows you care.

I always ask myself, why is it so easy for people to take, but not give? I am definitely a giver, I have been a giver all my life. Its not that I give to expect anything, I give because when I care or love someone so much, its only the right thing to do. Expressing yourself by giving. It doesn't have to monetary, or even physical, but for me it as to be emotional. Its just common courteous to wanna give back especially if the one who loves you is good to you.

So, why is it so hard to give back? Is it because we are too selfish to think of others, or too busy? Or is it our priorities are in such a way that the most important things (or person) becomes the least important. I wish I was built that way, to be a taker and not a giver. (But I know, I am not.) I know I shouldn't expect people to be like me, and give, but I do. And that will always be my problem.

Wanting to hear that special someone's voice isn't a sign of keeping tabs or trying to figure out where that person is. Its really just wanting to hear their voice because you miss them. Why do people always have an agenda, thinking someone is watching their every move. Have you ever thought maybe they just want to hear your voice. Or even that you are thinking of them.

I wonder if that person ever realizes, the special person they have in front of them. That rare individual that comes once in a life time, and they are lucky enough to have them as a companion in this journey called life. Do they know that person compromises for them because they genuinely are in love with them? Is that so hard to believe? Do they know that that person really wants to see not only to their own happiness, but to the happiness of their partner? Do they really think of those things other than themselves?

Its a lot to process, but think about it. What are your thoughts?

I am such a hopeless romantic...

Every girl as this dream of meeting her prince charming.  So many of us have kissed so many frogs before we had a chance to meet our prince. (Some of us are still kissing frogs)

 I figured I would name a few of my favorite romantic movies.

Now, this one I just saw this morning The Mistress of Spices. Such an awesome movie.

Simple Irresistable.
Kate and Leopold
Pretty Woman
Legend of the Falls
City of Angels


The list can go on... So when you have a chance and want to fall in love, just take the time out to watch these great movies and many more! Enjoy!!!

I love the way you...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uelHwf8o7_U

Rihanna...
Just gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that's alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that's alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie


I can only imagine the amount of women who feel like this every day. We all have this hope that our other halves are honest with us. That's all we can do, is hope.

The worst feeling in the world is to be lied to. To be made to feel insignificant. Knowing in our hearts, if we ask them for the truth, they are going to lie about it anyway. Which is another lie, on top of another. Even the most secured relationships feel this way.

I guess, what I expect out of my relationship (or any relationship), is this... If you don't love me tell me, if there is someone else tell me, if you no longer care for me tell me. Don't lead me on and don't waste my time. I will respect you more if you are honest.

I feel that all women should emphasize that. Express themselves!

When you look at this picture, what are you thoughts??

First and foremost, I have to give a shout out to my girl T, thank you for letting me use this picture...

At first, when I saw this picture on her account, I couldn't really tell it was an ass above his head. I actually thought it was his confusion on love. With that said, this picture is hilarious!!!

As I said early, my true thoughts were his confusion on love.  The reason I say that, is because that's usually what happens. We women think one way and men think another. The sad part is that we (meaning women) usually think that our men are thinking the same way, when they really aren't (hate to burst your bubble) its sad, but true.

Our expectations are always so high, even when we try to convince ourselves that we aren't going to do that anymore. But unfortunately we do, unfortunately, we set ourselves up for heartache and sadness. Why do we do that, you ask? Well, its simple. We (women) are emotional creatures. We think with our hearts rather than our heads. When men on the other hand, think with their heads (usually the one in between their legs). Then after they've tapped that, (yes, I said!) depending on how soon they have "tapped that," they will decide if its worth continuing. Why you ask? Because they are men, they aren't emotional. They are very simple minded creatures.

This is why opposites attract.

So, when you go on your next date ladies, know this. Men are always trying to sleep with you and that is their first thought. ALWAYS...  If they tell you no, they are liars. So go in with no EXPECTATIONS!! Usually something UNEXPECTED happens. Which is, its either going to continue or its not (Believe me, I know).

If you are in a relationship, like I am. Just go with your heart and hope that he truly feels the same for you. (He may not show it the way you would like him to, but try to voice your opinion in a polite manner and if he cares he will try) I know its taking a risk, but that's what life is about risks.

Things you deal with during work (dummies)

 When I was working for a particular company, this was by far the most interesting position I ever had. You know that there are some dumb people out in the world, but you really don't think there are that many dumb people, until you actually see it for yourself.

 

Here are a few of my experiences while working for this company (I shall not mention names).  Please take notes about what not to do during an interview.

 

1. How in the world are you going to walk into a job interview, and tell the employer if it is possible if the employer can make a copy of your resume because that is the last one you have left? You have got to be kidding me.

 

2. OMG, so a guy just walked into my office with a dress shirt and shorts. Normally, I would send him home on the spot, but since he had the nerve to come in shorts, he can just wait there.

 

3. TMI---Now, I am all for young mothers who are taking care of themselves and providing for their loved ones. But there is something severally  wrong, when I hear a young minority woman say, I am 22 years-old and I have 4 kids, ranging from the ages of 1 to 4 yrs-old. I got four baby daddies, (like its the right to do. Yet, my hard earned tax dollars are supporting you dumb ass!!) YEAH, I SAID IT!!

 

4. This is why you have no job! I have no tolerance for ignorant ghetto individuals. If you are wondering why you are being put into this category, it's because you, yourself have put yourself there. So blame yourself. Change starts with you!!!

 

5. I don't understand people! If you're given the opportunity to succeed in life, why be a scumbag about it and screw it up, not only for you, but for everyone else.

 

6. So, I received a resume today and on the resume its states, that the
person's recent job title was "I am Competent." Classic LMAO

 

7. Some MORON decided that he was going to come in for an interview in sweat pants and a T-shirt. I have no clue what some people are thinking.

 

8. If I could beat the crap out of this old HAG, who disrupted my briefing, I would. OMG, the BALLS!!!!

 

9. The fact that I have to tell you, what to wear on an interview is insulting to my intelligence! If I say no do-rags, no do-rags!

 

10. So far from being the pickiest individual concerning grammar and punctuation. Granted no one is perfect, and makes mistakes, including myself. But for those of you sending out your resume to prospective employers, can you at least have the common courtesy to send a resume that at least has the letter "I" capitalized. When speaking in the first person.  Thanks!!!

 

11. PEOPLE, PEOPLE, PEOPLE, when sending a resume to a prospective employer, when stating that the resume is attached, please make sure the resume is ATTACHED. AIR HEADS!

 

12. I have to say, that some of the most interesting people DO COME FROM NYC. Just called a woman, who left me a message inquiring about the position and she tells me that she is brushing her teeth and will call me back in two seconds. 

Now, the funny part about this whole thing is. She is telling me this, while the toothbrush is in her mouth. LOL

 

13.  A guy came in for an interview & was sent home. The reason he was sent home, was he decided to come in a blazer & jeans, like, if he was going to a club. Ladies & gents, which means note to self. When coming in for an interview, please dress accordingly, which would mean business attire. Don't come in half ass, with a blazer, but not the slacks. It's an interview for goodness sake. DUMB ASS

 

14. Once hired for the positions, please do not stare at hiring manager's boobs or at least, if you are going to be staring at them be discreet about it. Also, apologize when you are caught, especially when she tells you they don't answer back and its not polite to stare. Thanks!

 

15. When hiring manager is returning a call, please, please, please, don't take her to the bathroom with you on your cordless phone, and have her hear you taking a leak and flushing the toilet! OMG...

 

16.  When you are looking for a job, I beg of you! Please, please, please when sending your resume, when the hiring manager calls you back, on your voice-mail, your message shouldn't be HOLLAR ATCHA BOYY!! Thanks...

So this was the stuff  I had to deal with... Man are we in trouble!

 

For the life of me I can't understand!

Living in New York, you start to understand why people are the way they are. Then you also understand why you want to beat the $h!t out of them, for being the way they are. On the subway, I always see ads stating that courtesy is contagious... Who the Fcuk lied to them, and why are they trying to lie to us. The reality is courtesy isn't contagious and I truly believe that half of New York City doesn't even know the meaning of those three little words.

Perfect example: (and many of you have gone through this). This morning, I was heading back to my place from dropping off my daughter. I got on the train and it was packed, the usually for eight in the morning. So, there is this guy and he is leaning on the pole (not holding it leaning on the pole).  Sorry, fellas to shout you out, but the majority of the time its you men who can be the most rude.

Now, being my normal bitchy self, and knowing it was completely packed, and I couldn't fit my little self anywhere else. I had to hold the same pole. I fit my hand between him and the pole. He looks at me, like I was the rudest person he had ever met. He tells me, "You could have said excuse me." I told him, you are absolutely right I could have, but its only common sense that if its a packed train (I don't care if its packed or not) you would hold onto the pole rather than leaning on the pole. There are other people that need access to the pole. And I didn't pay $2.25 for you to lean on the pole and for me to have no access to it.

So, of course, he got upset with me and changed positions and held the pole. While giving me dirty looks! Probably, calling me every name in the book!!

What can I say

I <3 my friends. I love everything about them. We may drive each other nuts and may even not talk for a while, but one thing I can always expect is a good laugh. By far my closest friends are from back in my high school days (Way back!!) That's where I think, you will gain friends for life... (Actually, that's slightly a lie, Me and my girl Jin go back to elementary school days... Yup, I said it, 20+ odd years!) I have to first thank Myspace (Does anyone use that useless crap anymore?), because of them I found the majority of my wonderful friends. Secondly, I have to thank Facebook! (Big ups). My closest of closest friends are on there. Lucky Carms, CheChe Keesy, Lulu, V, Mar and Jin friends for life!

Then there is my Tae Kwon Doe Friend Vern, we were always in trouble together and she made me pee on myself (yeah, I said it!) And until this day, we are still friends!

Then it comes down to my college years (btw, I went to a ton of colleges and still I am trying to find myself SMDH). Mel, I love you. You loved (and still do) love my daughter like she is your own. I miss you so much.  I have grown to love all my college friends and even those that I don't speak to, they are always in my heart. They have even shown me love on new blog. (Thanks to my peeps) Ms. Falcon, you are my sister! Ms. Jimenez, I miss you soo much.. When are you going to love me again!

And then there is my work years (if anyone knows of a good company hiring, let me know) Especially, my girl Sash. She is hilarious!! Randomness is our forte... from going to Museums a little buzz (little being a total lie) to having a bird poop on me while we are out to dinner! Oh, and lets not forget the club moment where she tripped and still looked sexy while doing it...Then there is Toni aka Sonya... We fight and make up... lol, but we always have a great time out!

Also, to my friends who I have meet along the way. Thank you! 

I am completely blessed with my great friends!

We women...

Sometimes need a huge smack in the face. We do the craziest things just to have someone love us, accept us and just be with us. Even when we know they are not good for us. We tolerate things from men that no individual should tolerate.

I have seen a lot and I've been through a lot and I am thankful every day that it as made me the woman I am. When I hear young women belittle themselves it just makes me so mad when I hear, "I am not pretty, I am too fat etc." If you belittle yourself, a man will belittle you (not all men), but JERKS will. No man should treat any woman any less than what she is worth.

Ladies always remember your worth is your most sacred gift. Hold yourself in the highest regardless and a man (not a boy) will hold you there as well, don't settle for anything less.

Always remember this, What's one man's trash, is another man's gold.

The Adventures of Betty the Reds

I have an A-MAZING friend, who I love like a sister. She is so much fun and as a great personality (And she as curves in all the right places...) Please follow her blog! She is by far the most creative individual I know. She is a breath of fresh air! And I have to thank her for pushing me to start my own!!

Check out this Fierce new blog.

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God please give me strength

I need all the blessings I can get. I am so tired, and feel completely at my lowest. I need your strength God.

As my girlfriend Jenn Jen would say

"Dear Life,
I believe you didn't receive my previous memo. Please let me know if you have any intent on letting me breathe a
little easier... Sincerely, The pun of your jokes lately" 

She's a genius with her wittiness!

I personally think...

That they seriously need to do deeper background checks when bringing in new recruites for the NYC Police Department, What I mean by that is a mental background check.

This afternoon, I was leaving my place to run a few errands. I noticed a police car slowly passing by. I really didn't think anything of it, until they stopped me two blocks away from my place. The problem I have with this is, not only did they stop in the middle of the street, it's how one of the officers approached me. This is how it went:

Officer: What's your name?
Me: Why do you need to know my name?
Officer: Because I am asking.
Me: Again, the reason you need to know my name is because --
Officer: We are doing an investigation.
Me: So wouldn't it be best to say, excuse me Miss I am doing an investigation and would like to know if -- Not what's your name.
Officer: (drives off)

Now, again does anyone else see the problem here? He wasn't investigating crap. He was trying to investigate my number. Its a huge issue when police officers use their power in an inappropriate manner.

I was pi$$ed for a few hours. Bastards!

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies...

For those of you, who do not know the meaning of pet peeves, well here it is.... pet peeve (or pet hate) is a minor annoyance that an individual identifies as particularly annoying to him or her, to a greater degree than others may find it. Thank you Wikipedia.

 Now, with that said. Back to the ladies and this goes for the men as well... My biggest pet peeves are (and there are many, so I will try and make this brief, if not, we are going to be here all day.) When I see an attractive young lady walking down the street. She's looking well put together. She just looks fierce, playing the part of "Yeah, that right I'm flaunting it!" But of course, me being the person I am (I notice everything) I see her bra strap either dirty or all tangled up. C'mon now, this is a huge no, no! Just makes me what to smack the $h!t out of her.

Now, men (and this doesn't go for all) when you walk out of the house looking like you have lost the fight of your life with the iron. (Basically a hot mess!) Is it necessary to walk out the house looking like a bum? Really! News Flash fellas, a woman loves a man that can play both parts. Looking rough and rugged and looking sharp! If you don't have either of those, you might as well kill yourself.

Child Abuse!!!

Any man who abuses any child deserves the death penalty as soon as he is caught. As well as, the mother who doesn't believe her child. Just heard a story of a young girl who is now 16, but from the young age of 6, she was forced to perform sexual acts with her mouth & now as throat cancer. She told her mother of what this man was doing & the mother called her a liar. (btw, the man is the mother's boyfriend)

Completely disgusted with today's society. Very much a big advocate of an eye for an eye! Bastard!  

What your boyfriend should be, and what he actually is?

What's your definition of a boyfriend? Or better yet, what's your expectation of a boyfriend?

For instance, my expectation isn't that he has to be drop dead gorgeous, nor does he have to be a millionaire. But what I would love for him to be is intelligent, witty, slightly romantic and somewhat sincere, but most importantly a good listener who isn't going to judge me.

You are so Dumb... For REAL

http://www.watchevansville.com/play/News+and+Politics/Huntsville_Rapist

This is not only scary, but hilarious... This is the epitome of GHETTO, why must people speak this way???

Why are stupid people famous!!

Would like to know what have I done wrong? Why am I not famous?

So many people watch the Jersey Shore, and I just can't understand it. I have tried my hardest to watch this show and when it all comes down to it, I feel as if I am losing brain cells. But it isn't even that, I cannot understand how these individuals are being paid x amount of dollars with no talent what so ever!!  This is definitely a quantity act... because there is no freaking quality here!

What this shows says, like every other show MTV as shown is that, it isn't necessary to be intelligent. If you are dumb you will get paid. So when it comes down to it, again, I would like to know what have I done wrong? Oh, I know, I am an intelligent individual and that doesn't count as quantity. Oh, stupid me for wondering...

Why am I always in trouble....

Somehow, I'm always in trouble for saying what's on my mind. I know there's a time and place for everything.  I do choose wisely what I'm going to say, but somehow I'm wrong!! Sheesh!

Just the things people do is by far the most mind boggling thing to me. And when I state my opinion, it's like OMG she said what? Then there is me saying. Well, you're an idiot and I'm calling you out!! 

Why are people so dumb, is it really important to do something without thinking...

Is common sense, really not that common? And if so, how long do I have, because there has to be an emergency exit somewhere...

It isn't that I'm not a people person. It's simply that I'm not a STUPID people person.  (by sexyvampire46) A quote that I got from this blogger... She is brilliant.

MEN!!!

So the meaning of word Men from Urban Dictionary is... A sex that some women on urbandictionary.com come to bitch about because they have recently been dumped, or can't get any. Jennifer: OH MY GOD WHY CAN'T I EVER GET LAID. FUCK MEN, FUCK THEM ALL. AHAHAHA I WILL GOTO URBANDICTIONARY DOT COM AND WRITE UP A DEFINITION ON HOW MUCH MEN SUCK. AHAHAH THAT'LL SHOW EM. Now, honestly this is my first blog, so of course, I am going to pick something to blog about or complain about... LOL (in this case, I am doing both.) What can I say, that hasn't been said by every other woman in this entire planet from the past to the present... Men, you can't live with them, you can't live without them. I am really starting to question that. Sometimes, I wish I was born back in the day, when a man courted a woman. When a man was genuinely interested in her. Nowadays, that doesn't even seem to be the case. Nowadays, it seems like more and more the quality of men has diminished. I feel so bad for the futures of the young ladies that are coming right after us. They are really going to have to deal with these so called men.  Men no longer court a woman, they really no longer care really. I know that is generalizing (so I am apologizing now for doing it.), but all I know is that even when you are a good girl, somehow it isn't enough. Even when you are a good girl with a touch of bad it isn't enough. So where does it all come together? To be honest, there really isn't a right answer to this question or even a wrong answer.  It really is what you make of it. All you can do, is be the best person you possibly can be and hope that the man you have interest in sees everything that you have to offer, and accepts your imperfections and knows that those imperfections are what make you beautiful.  And if not, screw him and on to the next... Just saying!