I don't know about you, but for me the simplest pleasures are what matter most in a relationship. Its a bond that grows with each special moment. A gift each one gives to one another without costing much, but a simple smile that touches the heart.
Compromise, trust, respect, a simple phone call or text shows you care.
I always ask myself, why is it so easy for people to take, but not give? I am definitely a giver, I have been a giver all my life. Its not that I give to expect anything, I give because when I care or love someone so much, its only the right thing to do. Expressing yourself by giving. It doesn't have to monetary, or even physical, but for me it as to be emotional. Its just common courteous to wanna give back especially if the one who loves you is good to you.
So, why is it so hard to give back? Is it because we are too selfish to think of others, or too busy? Or is it our priorities are in such a way that the most important things (or person) becomes the least important. I wish I was built that way, to be a taker and not a giver. (But I know, I am not.) I know I shouldn't expect people to be like me, and give, but I do. And that will always be my problem.
Wanting to hear that special someone's voice isn't a sign of keeping tabs or trying to figure out where that person is. Its really just wanting to hear their voice because you miss them. Why do people always have an agenda, thinking someone is watching their every move. Have you ever thought maybe they just want to hear your voice. Or even that you are thinking of them.
I wonder if that person ever realizes, the special person they have in front of them. That rare individual that comes once in a life time, and they are lucky enough to have them as a companion in this journey called life. Do they know that person compromises for them because they genuinely are in love with them? Is that so hard to believe? Do they know that that person really wants to see not only to their own happiness, but to the happiness of their partner? Do they really think of those things other than themselves?
Its a lot to process, but think about it. What are your thoughts?
people are different. men are a whole nother species. if time after time you do so much for them and they still don't see how special and awesome you are, keep it moving and let him go.
ReplyDeletewe have to remember as women, that men aren't like us. we are caring, nurturing people. we love wholeheartedly and give give give. personalitites are different though and they may not do what we want them to do but it doesn't mean that they care any less, it just means they may show their love differently (not how we would, but just differently).
i guess you just have to ask yourself which category this person falls into and whether or not it's worth the frustration.